I love Abraham Hicks. I really enjoy the way they explain how life works and how our focus of energy brings about the life we experience.
There was one point in my life which at the time seemed like everything was going my way. Sure, there was contrast, but everything was going for my good. We went from bankrupt, losing our house and vehicles to within two years I went from my highest earning year in my life being $15,800 to 6 figures. During this time I more than 10x my income. I was high on life. I was busy, but I had a list of the things I wanted and I was specific and as I look at that list now, almost every one of those things came to pass within 4 years. Not bad, right?
But, the journey was an adventure with highs and lows. I started out in a good place and life ultimately delivered what I expected.
One would think that this was a happily ever after story. But… this is real life. Life happened and I changed my attitude… the only thing we can change, right? I stopped finding the blessing in everything. When contrast showed up, and while it didn’t originally change where I was, I got lazy. I started hanging out with people who were less than happy with their life. I started voicing the things that weren’t fun and I got more things that weren’t fun. I started complaining with them and lo and behold, I started having more things to complain about.
One day at the height of this “depression” (I call it this because it was a depression in my energy) I went back and looked at my journal from those beautiful days of my life when everything was going my way. As I read the journal entries, I had a visceral thought. “Wow! What a freaking liar!! I remember that day. I colored these things rosy, but if I look at it objectively, life sucked!” That day, I made a vow to only be objective in the way I looked at life.
Here is the problem with that view point. What is your objective? My objective today is to be happy and enjoy life. (That day my objective was to be a victim.) If I am coming from the place of being a victim, I am going to find all the ways in which life is treating me as a victim.
I am the creator of my life. What I focus on expands. When I see the blessings and miracles, I start to notice more blessings and miracles. As I start to notice more blessings and miracles, I start to be more grateful for the blessings and miracles. As I start to be more grateful for the blessings and miracles, I start to receive more blessings and miracles. Do you see how this can become a spiral of positivity?
Looking back on that wonderful life, I realize that I did certain things that fed the spiral. Happiness is possible regardless of the circumstances. And… it doesn’t take money. It doesn’t take friends. It doesn’t take the outside world looking a certain way. I have now returned to that kind of happiness. I love that kind of happiness. I want for everyone to experience that.
The key to this kind of happiness is the magic of the reframe. Here is a journal entry from that time:
June 11, 2008
I am so grateful for all of the positive things coming into my life. The dark moods are getting further and further apart. Today’s lesson that hit me was that we can ricochet the bad thoughts out and help program the good thoughts.
I am finding it easier to be around positive people. I am starting to see opportunities pop up, and I know that they are the start to an answer to help me achieve my goals. I am essentially living the life of my dreams. And August 2nd marks the day Ken joins me permanently At that point, it won’t matter what freeman does. We don’t need them anymore.
I am so blessed there is so much abundance in my life and I am grateful beyond words for all that Heavenly Father gives me.
That attitude stayed with me for a couple of years. As I read through my journal, I see where I reframed every piece of contrast to see its way of being for my highest good. When I would get a piece of news that would have otherwise been devastating, I held it with positive intention.
That was the beginning. Looking at the facts of the time, I realize that it was this reframe of “life is for me and everything is working out for my good” completely adjusted my happiness level and got me through what others might have perceived as a very difficult time of life. It was what allowed my life to start growing from the ashes instead of devastating me and destroying my forward momentum.
Later that year I was in a car accident. When it happened, the very first thought that crossed my mind was, “Yay! Now we get a new bumper” (The bumper of the van was messed up.)
Three months later, my husband lost his job. This was an answer to my prayers. He had been sick for so long and I truly worried about his safety and the safety of others on the road while he was driving. Three months after that, we lost our house and all of our stuff was being given back to the bank.
Through this whole time, I maintained my positive attitude. I had had in my mind that we would be in a bigger house (ours was 1170 square feet for 7 of us). I had intended a swimming pool, a swing set, a garden, grass and trees for shade. I had pictured a large house with a huge kitchen, everyone having their own bedrooms, a large master bedroom and an office where I could work. Despite the fact that we were living off unemployment and couldn’t pay our bills, we made it into this very home. It wasn’t what I had expected, it was the house I had grown up in. My mom and dad had moved and the house was empty. They needed someone to move in and take care of it. They were willing to let us stay there rent free until we started making money. It only took me 3 months to have the work to be able to start paying the rent. The coolest thing about it all… the house hit every single tick box on my list. I never in a million years could have imagined it would be that easy or that perfect. I didn’t know the how. I merely knew that it was and I took inspired action.
I had intended to be debt free. Hubby couldn’t get his job back and so we were living on my income and unemployment. Then unemployment ran out. We were now in a place where we had just enough for housing and food. Bankruptcy became our only option. So, we declared bankruptcy. My intention of being debt free became a reality. Not the way I had anticipated. However, it was a reset for us and I was grateful for the blessing that it was. This was the end of 2009.
Fast forward to 2010. That car accident at the end of 2008 had finally cleared up and they finally settled. (It was a bad accident and my body had taken a beating like my car.) I had been building my virtual assisting business and working slowly to build it up. The money from that accident was actually the money that helped me to ramp up my virtual assisting business and get the programs and assets I needed to be able to run a successful 6 figure business. I was able to bring in new clients and I was loving life. I had clients like Margaret Lynch, Jeff Howard, Nick Ortner, Joe Rubino, Rhys Thomas, Leslie Householder and Cynthia Kersey. These were all people I had admired and who had made a difference in my life. I was thrilled to be able to work with them and help bring their message into the world.
Here is the thing that I learned. It is not enough to intend to live the life you want to live. There must also be an underlying change in your vibration. There was a point in the courses that I had done where I reached and I didn’t pass. Same point in every course I took. I had huge resistance to that point. It was the point where we start to work on our worthiness. I would get there and I would say, “Seriously? I don’t need this. Of course I’m worthy. I don’t have limiting beliefs”
But, I did. And, just like a rubber band will snap back, so did I. It took quite a while. I had built up the habits to get me in a winner’s mindset. And as long as I was taking action, I stayed a winner. But I got lazy. I thought I was immune to low vibrations. I started hanging out with negative people. I started watching the news again. I started watching television dramas. I got sucked in to facebook drama.
I read recently that habits can’t be changed, they can only be over-ridden. There was a point I would have disagreed, however, I have learned that if I am not diligent in maintaining my positive habits, the lazy ones will take over.
I believe it was Bob Proctor, among many others, who said that we are either expanding or we are contracting. Entropy happens. If we do not exert our energy and take the action to keep growing, expanding and living, our vibration will slow down and we will stop experiencing the high vibe experiences life can bring us because we won’t be congruent with them.
in my life, I have learned that if I am diligent in watching my mindset, careful about where I put my attention, and if I put my happiness first, I will achieve it.
Here are the key ingredients I have learned to make for a high vibe life.
- Know what you want. Get detailed. Get involved. Get excited. Get grateful.
- Take inspired action. Act on any little idea you get. The more you take action on the little ideas, the more ideas you get and the more awesomeness you are able to experience.
- Live as if. Regardless of what the “real world” looks like, know in your heart that you already have it. It has to appear. It is law.
- Stay high vibe. Turn off the news. Turn off social media (or at least be very picky about what you view. Filter out the negative Nellies.) Listen to uplifting music. Keep a gratitude journal. Eat healthy food. Move your body. Find positive people. Join a master mind.
- Stay curious. We are ever evolving and life will undoubtedly bring us experiences that do not fit into our box. Be open to what is outside the box. The most wonderful experiences come in ways we couldn’t have imagined.
- Love yourself. The most important part of the recipe is self-love. There is a form of divine narcism that is essential to living your best life; where you know that you are worth it; where you can see the divinity in yourself; where you know that you create your own life; where you appreciate all that you have been through to get you to where you are. You are perfect and everything you have experienced has created that perfection. You have something to bring to this world that only you can bring. And it could only have come through the life that has gotten you to where you are. In case you missed it earlier in this paragraph, You are worth it! You are worthy! You are amazing! You are that I AM that creates life.
There are tips and tricks to see where you are in life. Easy ways to see how to make course corrections. Ultimately, start with Self-love. This is the key to everything.