This is a fact. Sometimes it rolls along amazingly and sometimes it can be a bit more tumultuous. I have lived long enough and had enough experience that I know that the Law of Attraction is legit. I also hold the stance of radical responsibility.
It can get a little tough to know where all these pieces fit together because while we are fully responsible for our lives, we also co-create with others and as everyone has agency, sometimes things might show up unexpected.
I have a dear friend, Genevieve, who had an experience earlier this week which left her asking, “What do I need to learn? What am I doing wrong that I keep having this experience?” This series of questions got me meditating. It is a question that makes sense when you live in this space of “I create my own life.”
Abraham Hicks will say that we bring into our experience things based on where we are vibrating. Now, this particular situation made no sense. My friend, Genevieve, had been vibrating in a very high place. She loved the situation. Not just the situation, but everything about it. It had been a long time since I had seen her so “high flying” about anything.
When from out of left field, “the rug got pulled out from under her,” it didn’t make any sense about how she could have manifested this “punishment.”
So I started thinking. We all have moments of contrast. Meaning nobody will live without challenges. Some are big and some are small. You will know that you have fully embraced your place as creator of your life by how you react to that moment of contrast.
Now, we are human. I don’t expect that we will necessarily throw a party when contrast happens, but, sometimes, I do. People look at me like I am weird. And, I am. But here is what I have learned: It is always for my good. Sometimes it takes me a few days to get there, sometimes it takes me a bit longer, but I know that I wouldn’t be who I am without it.
What I have gained by having this shift in perspective is a peace and a happiness that allows me to really live in the now and enjoy the life I am here living.
So… to make that simpler, do we say, “Oh crap! I screwed up again. Life is showing me that I can’t get it right! What do I have to do to finally get where I want to be?”
These questions are natural and I find that they generally keep me in a lower vibration.
Here is a sample list of questions you could ask to create a reframe to allow yourself to embrace the contrast, use it as a catalyst for a brighter future and to bring yourself peace and understanding:
- What blessings come from it?
- What are the lessons that I now know that I could only have learned through that?
- Who were people I met who otherwise would be unknown to me?
- What lives did I bless through the experience?
- How did my “mistake” bless others?
- If I lost money, who needed it more than I did?
- Where was I making the situation a source instead of a channel?
- Who am I now because of that experience and how can I embrace that better me more?
Only you can answer these questions. Everyone’s will be different.
This is how I do my reframe and I love the perspective it gives me, but sometimes, my ego can get a little pushy when I start going there.
“How can this be a blessing? I just lost my job; I lost money; My husband went crazy; My child died; I went bankrupt; I lost my house; My car has been repossessed; I just got into a car accident which totally destroyed my favorite car; and a million other experiences both “good” and “bad” that have happened to me in just the last ten years…”
And yet, those things are the things that have made me who I am. They have given me the insight to have more compassion. They have helped me to grow my spirituality. They have allowed me to develop friendships with people I never would have known. They have shifted my paradigm and they have helped me to love myself and to love life.
Because of all of these experiences, I am happier than I ever thought I could be because of the path they have taken me down.
When I finally let go of the expectations and opened myself up to a higher wisdom that could teach me what really matters in life, everything got easier. Not by removing me from this experience we call life, but by granting me understanding to be able to reframe how each thing happens for my highest good.
For my friend, Genevieve, the blessings were not immediately apparent, but when we were able to do a reframe, she was able to shift her perspective. Does it mean everything is already perfect? Well yes! Everything is always perfect. But, no, she still is feeling the flux of the experience. It just makes it easier to bear until things straighten back out.
What we focus on expands. If we focus on how bad things suck, we will notice ALL the evidence of how bad things suck. But if we can shift our perspective to see the blessings, we will start to see ALL the evidence of the blessings in our life and THAT is the way to get into a high-vibe state that will carry you through the contrast and leave you living a HAPPY life.